In the early days of a grief journey people tell us they only have unhappy thoughts. They find it difficult to think past the recent death of a loved one. However, what seems to work is to try and replace unhappy thoughts, with happy thoughts. For example, these will normally come from shared happy times during years of a relationship; holiday memories, parties with friends and growing families. So compile a list of these happy memories and when an unhappy thought enters your mind, just focus on one of two of your favourite happy memories.